Wednesday, May 25, 2011

Be Yourself - Everyone Else is Taken!

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Quirky, funny, kind, compassionate, sweet, tomboy, talented, stubborn, smart, dry, independent, clumsy, fiesty, God fearing, fun loving, and precious.

These adjectives describe my little sister. Anyone who reads my blog knows the love that I have for this child. I love her as if she were my own. When she smiles, I smile. When she cries, I cry.

Paige had an experience last week that made her question the adjectives that I used ot describe her and it made me sad. Things did work out in the end, with valuable lessons to be learned along the way.

Since the fourth grade, a little boy in Paige's class has been pulling the edges of his eyes to Paige. Her fourth grade teacher took care of it for us then. In fifth grade it happened again. We chalked it up to "boys will be boys" and he is just immature. Well, wouldn't you know, Paige was walking to the gym on Friday and said kid stood in front of her and wouldn't let her by. He started pulling at his eyes again. This time, Paige's little guy friend (yes she still has the SAME boyfriend...ack), came up to the boy and shoved him out of the way so that Paige could pass.

I picked up Paige and two friends from school Friday afternoon to take them to a sleepover. As soon as they got into the car, Paige said, "He did it again". I knew exactly what she was talking about. I listened to her. I heard the sadness and doubt in her voice. It broke my heart. Paige is extremely well liked by her peers and sometimes they make her head too big. She is so full of positive self esteem, but she was like a wilted flower speaking about the incident.

For the life of me, I couldn't let this go on any longer. In fact, I probably let it linger for longer than it should have. I took P and friends to the party and came home and looked in the school directory and got this child's phone number. I dialed it up without really planning how I would handle the situation. His mother answered and listened and listened. She didn't sugar coat the situation or make excuses for her son. She apologized and said that she would talk to him.

The phone rang an hour later and she asked if she could bring "him" over to speak to Paige. I told her Paige would be home after the sleepover and they could come the next day. Bright and early on Saturday, the mom brought her son over. She stood back at the bottom of our steps and this young man rang the doorbell. Paige opened the door and received an apology from a teary eyed little boy. He didn't look so big and bad standing there with all of the adults around.

I was so proud of Paige. When he apologized she didn't say "It's ok", because she told me it's not. She told him that it really hurt her and that he needs to be more careful with his actions. WOW! I was stunned. He agreed and gave her a hug. She smiled and told him "let's still be friends, k?" He smirked and agreed.

Do I think they will ever be the best of friends? No. Do I think he learned something? Maybe. Did I learn something? Yep! My girl is a sweetheart and is forgiving and stands up for what is right. I love her so much!

Her dance competition was this weekend. At these competitions, the vendors sell tshirts with the companies name on the front and dancers on the back. This time, there was one more option. The shirt she chose said, "Be Yourself. Everyone Else is Taken". I couldn't agree more!!!

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Check out other black and whites at my friend, Lisa's blog!

15 comments:

Mireille said...

WOW!! Paige handled herself so well! And I hope that if my girls go through this one day,that they will handle it with so much dignity! Well done Paige! You are my hero!!

Jboo said...

Love the way you and Paige handled that! She is an amazing girl and you are quite the amazing sister too!

Love your photos!

Janet

Julia said...

I really don't know what to say, I just think you and Paige both handled this so well, much better than I would have. Kudos to the boys mom too for not letting him off so easy. If more parents took action like that, schools would be a more friendly place I think.
LOVE the photo's, specially the first black and white, it's incredible!

Julia said...

I really don't know what to say, I just think you and Paige both handled this so well, much better than I would have. Kudos to the boys mom too for not letting him off so easy. If more parents took action like that, schools would be a more friendly place I think.
LOVE the photo's, specially the first black and white, it's incredible!

amazeingteacher said...

this is awesome! i'm so glad you took a stand and called the parent. i think more parents should do it, because bullies need to be confronted! unfortunately, many parents would not have done what his parents did. so, i say good for his mom for making him apologize in person!!!! and paige's response was wonderful too.

Christine said...

Wow. This is very timely since we recently had a similar issue... obviously it's a younger child, but it was shocking and hurtful (to me, S didn't really get it) I hope that we handle this as well as you and Paige did in the future.

And I LOVE the shirt. LOVE.

Robin said...

WOW!! Thanks for sharing this ... I agree with everyone here!! Kudos to you for making the call & the boys mother for not letting him off the hook.

Sharon said...

The 2 of you never cease to amaze me. You know that, right?

Laurie said...

Well done, Missy. Well done! And a well done to Paige also. It is so tough (for me, at least) to confront people who have wronged me, so I really admire (and find inspiration) from those who can do it! And just so it doesn't go without saying... I'm really sorry this happened to her.

Colleen said...

I just LOVE her!!! You both are amazing!!!
What a great shirt!!! Would love to have one for Faith!

Half Gaelic, Half Garlic! said...

She is a smart and sweet little girl!! Very beautiful too:)

She handled the whole situation so well.....and so did you my friend! Way to go!

Love the photos from the recital....and that shirt could not be more perfect!

xoxo,

Lisa

Chic Homeschool Mama said...

I love how she handled it. What a beautiful young lady inside & out. I am so glad that the boys mother understood & didn't try to defend his actions.

Love her dance photos too- super cool!

rgshrs said...

Tears in my eyes, I think you and Paige both handled the situation very well.

Love the pics, they are AWESOME as usual;)

Gail said...

I have tears in my eyes reading this...oh Missy. You both handled this situation so well, with integrity. Paige and Missy you rock!!!

Love all the pics of your girl!!!

Tiffany said...

So glad the situation turned out the way it did..an learning experience for everyone. What an amazing girl!

Tiffany

PS: Love the shirt:)